I think everyone has a teenage soap opera that they grow up on. The cross-section of good looking people, hormones, and drama that we can identify with is too much for anyone to withstand. For me, it was ‘The O.C.’ and to a certain extent, ‘Gossip Girl’. In addition to the three aforementioned elements, there was always a super schmaltzy soundtrack attached to all of these shows. I still remember discovering so much music by diving deep into the artists, and I still listen to some of them to this day.
The soundtracks, much like the shows they’re based on, are full of melodrama and when you tie a moment to a song at such an impressionable age, it’s hard to get rid of that feeling of nostalgia whenever you hear it. Weddings are now the milestone amongst our friends that bring each other back. It’s scary to think that college was almost ten years ago. When you transplant everyone back around the same people that you saw daily for years, there’s a familiarity that rises up. Everyone has better hair, we dress better, and we’ve all pretty much put some weight on. I’m pretty sure that’s the inevitable slow march of time and I’m actually okay with that.
It was a perfect day on Saturday, probably the first perfect day of 2018. 77 degrees in the sun, a light wind blowing, and to pass the time, we were trying to guess what song the first dance was going to be. I had Led Zeppelin, my friend called Coldplay. After the beautiful ceremony and the cocktail hour, we were seated at our table and ‘Chasing Cars’ comes on. Maybe the song wasn’t in any of my soaps, but that song took me back in time. No one moved as the couple swayed in their loving embrace for the first time as husband and wife.
And so the revelry went on. We caught up with each other, filled each other in on the years that had gone by, what’s to come in the weeks ahead, and made promises to not let the time slip away so easily again. We ate, we drank, we danced, and we found each other again in the way that old friends do. We made the same jokes, fell into the same patterns, and maybe got immature again for a bit.
Throughout the night, the refrain from ‘Chasing Cars’ would sneak into my mind. Being on the dance floor, I could imagine the scene in slow-motion in my head, and matched with the song, it could’ve been in any episode that I watched when I was a teenager. But it was better, because it was real, the stories that we told were ones that we lived, and every laugh and memory was earned from every ridiculous adventure that we ever had together.
And that’s what weddings should be, a moment of perfection in an imperfect world. Life tells us that things are meant to change, that impermanence is the only constant. But sometimes we get a few hours where we can let time slip away and stay suspended in bliss just for a while. So, we’ll probably break our promises to see each other soon, and that’s okay, because life happens. But we’ll all be there for the next wedding, but until then, we had one perfect day.