I’m going off the grid.
Well, no, that’s a lie. I’m just going off the grid dating wise. I’m turning off Tinder, OKCupid, Bumble, and whatever other app is on my phone.
Online dating is almost entirely superficial. Yes, you fill out a profile and all of that other crap, but apps, especially stuff like Tinder and Bumble, you just look at pictures. As a completely average looking dude, this is not my forte, and I try not to be misleading in advertising, but I still do reasonably well. I’d like to think that I’m a decent guy, but looking at it all, it seems kind of inane.
I realized that going out on dates with all of these women, it was fine, but there was maybe only one that I had real chemistry with. You can say whatever you want, but I need that with someone I’m dating. I think I felt satisfied because I was busy. It was more volume than anything else. You’re trying to spark some sort of desire because you both mutually clicked a button. If the point of dating is to simply go on dates, then online dating is absolutely what you should be going for. I realized that the way I looked at the women I dated was different than the women that I’m friends with, and that’s a pretty terrible thing.
There’s the question of focus. In the back of your mind, when you’re online dating, I think there’s always the thought of “there’s someone else out there”. I miss having one person that you think about, one person that you look forward to seeing, and to actually plan a date instead of just getting a drink at some random bar. Before you get too excited, it’s probably going to mean a lot less dates, but hopefully better ones. Who knows though, maybe the crippling loneliness will eventually get to me, but for now, I’m kicking it old school. If it works out, great. If it doesn’t work out, so be it. It’s hard as hell to meet people nowadays, and I get that, but I’d rather do things the hard way and make it worth something, than take the easy way out. I can be as hypocritical as anyone, but I think it’s high time for me to put my money where my mouth is when it comes to dating. If I want something real, then I have to hold myself to a higher standard.
That, and there’s actually someone I want to spend my time with. Sue me, my intentions were not totally without cause.