What I Learned From Sleepless in Seattle (or Timing is Everything)
I like romantic comedies. There, I said it. I remember one of the first movies I watched was ‘Sleepless in Seattle’. I think I was in elementary school, and I watched it with my dad on the VCR. One of the ways that he learned to speak English was watching movies, that, and listening to the Yankees on the radio (as such, we are both Yankees fans). I’m an unabashed fan of a well-constructed romcom. Deep down, I’m a sap, I know what’s coming, and I want the guy to end up with the girl at the end. Some people subscribe that a good movie has to be deep or even worse, can’t end happily. I see a movie because I want to be entertained most of the time, and guess what, for some reason, romantic comedies hit the sweet spot.
The takeaway for most people is about finding the right person, or, in a male’s case, finding the right girl. I get that, and it makes sense. If you’re looking, you’re looking for the right person to catch your eye, to have the chemistry, to have that spark. I’m a big believer in the spark, chemistry, or whatever ever you call it. That is, until life conspired to prove me wrong. Now, I still believe in it, but my absolute belief in it has diminished. I think that if you dig below the obvious stuff, romantic comedies tell you that the key to everything is timing.
Looking back, I realize how incredibly exact things have to be in order for the stars to line up. First off, availability is a big deal. Only a true scumbag goes after a girl that’s in a relationship. Flirting is flirting, but pursuit is something else altogether. So, that has to line up. Then, you both need to be in the right frame of mind to start something. While you can joke that a man will always be ready, there are definitely times when finding a significant other isn’t exactly a priority. I’m not a religious person, but I do believe that there is some element of fate, destiny, or the Great Pumpkin that gets everything to line up when and/or if you meet that someone.
So, what happens if you think you found the right person, or a person that you think is worth chasing after, but the timing just isn’t there, what the hell do you do? I’ll say this, being someone who was never really invested in anyone, my most common response is, who cares, there will be another (probably, hopefully). But then, every once in while, you get tangled up in the thought of someone. I spent a while thinking of the right word to use there. ‘Tangled’. That’s about right. When it’s your ass on the line, everything just seems a bit different. It’s like a movie, when you see the situation from the outside, it’s a lot easier to figure out what the hell you’re supposed to do, then being actually in that situation. So, what do you do? Do you give up? Do you wait? Do you throw caution to the wind and just go for the longshot?
I’m pretty sure giving up is the wrong way to go, even though that’s usually my go to advice, because, when the timing works, you get this:
And you know what’s the best part about that?
There’s no kiss.
Just, “Shall we?”
Timing is Everything.